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What is Polyamory?
Polyamory (or poly for short) is the practice of having multiple, honest, loving
relationships at the same time. Unlike affairs, poly relationships
are intended to be honest and consensual. The range of
polyamorous relationships is large and ranges from somewhat casual to extremely
committed (including group marriage) situations.
Unlike the image of
free love in the 1960s, the polyamory community understands that
creating multiple strong relationships is a difficult task and
requires some thought and care. And unlike the image of
swinging, polyamory tends to focus on relationships and love, instead
of focusing primarily on additional sexual outlets.
Which is not to say that sex isn't an important benefit of
some, perhaps many,
polyamorous relationships. Duh!
Unfortunately, we live in a world where traditional monogamy is
often more sometimes more of a facade
than a reality. Polyamory provides a way for people to honor their
desire to be initimate with many people, while letting them preserve
their values, their self-respect, their sense of committment,
and their long-term relationships.
Sound crazy? Five years ago I might have agreed. And I won't deny
that it didn't take some time and adjustment for everything to be
comfortable to everyone. But, as a result, I have a wonderful wife
of many years, a girlfriend of two years, both of whom I love dearly,
and an occasional friendly date with two of my intimiate friends (one
male, one female). My two main partners are both good friends and
we definitely share some sense of family together.
Everyone is comfortable and satisified with
the situation. Wouldn't you agree that that situation was worth some
I've put together this
site to provide
a set of reviews of books related to polyamory, as well as to provide
a place for other readers to add their own views.
It is not intended as a complete introduction to polyamory.
An excellent set of resources is available at
The alt.polyamory Home Page
Finally, I have a somewhat more
personal site which includes essays about polyamory, bisexuality,
and related topics.