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Coming Out Poly
Unfortunately, there are no books specific to coming
out as polyamorous. Both of the titles in our
Basic Bookshelf do cover the topic and will probably be sufficient
for many people.
However, others may wish to consider reading some
of the better books people have written about coming out as gay or
lesbian, I've listed a couple that I've read here. The issues
aren't identical, they're different in many ways, but still, there's
a lot to learn here!
Forward by Betty Berzon, Ph.D.
Outing Yourself is a simple,
straightforward, step-by-step manual for coming out,
covering everything from the early issues of
self-acceptance to presentation issues and issues
of coming out to family and in the workplace.
By presenting the issues in a simple step-by-step
manner, Michelangelo provides a path that makes
the process easier, providing for a more comfortable
process along the way.
One issue that some readers may have is that Michelangelo
does seem to have the opinion that (in the end) you
will be happiest having come out to your family and
your coworkers. While I believe that is often, perhaps
almost always the case, I have known gay, lesbian,
bi and poly folk who are comfortable with their lives
being someone less than completely out. I think
everyone needs to judge the costs and benefits of
coming out for themselves.
Out in the Workplace: The Pleasures and Perils of Coming Out on
Richard A. Rasi, D.Min.
Lourdes Rodriguez-Nogues, Ed.D.
Out in the Workplace largely
consists of stories of people coming out in their
workplaces as gay, Lesbian, and occasionally bisexual,
covering a wide variety of experiences, both positive
and negative, in a wide variety of settings.
While the greatest value of the book is the breadth
and general level of honesty each of the stories
reflects, there are also a couple of sections worth
mentioning in particular.
One set of chapters deals with the stories of
five different people coming out at the Bank of
Boston. I found the range of different perspectives
Congressman Barney Frank of Massachusetts also
provides a chapter, which in addition to being
interesting on its own terms, was also interesting
in that his experiences and issues coming out in
the Congress aren't as different as I might have
In addition to coming out stories, the book Also includes
a chapter providing an overview
of what legal protections are available for gay,
Lesbian and bisexual people in the workplace.
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