BiGi (pronounced Bi Guy) is a mailing list for discussions and community-building between bisexual men.

Members must be men, but need not be bisexual so long as they are bi-friendly. That having been said, we are not in the business of deciding if you are a man or not, and we believe strongly in the right of people to self-identify. If you think of yourself as a man, that's good enough for us.

Most bisexual men's resorces I've come across before tend to either be a simple series of casual pick-up offers, or support groups for married bisexual men coming out to their partners. Those resources are important and valuable, but I'm hoping to provide a different kind of list, one which builds community and which emphasizes the positive aspects of being a bi guy, which allows us to see bi men as people who can be having working relationships, who can be out in the world with their bisexuality, who can fully integrate bisexuality into their lives.

Some topics for discussion include:

• Stereotypes of bisexual men
• Discrimination against bisexual men, or bisexuals in general, or men in general
• Do we qualify as "Hot Bi Babes?"
• Activism
• Daily events in the lives of our list members, whether relevant to bisexuality or not
• Finding good resources
• Fear of queer-bashing, being safe in a heterosexist world
• Finding your first same-sex partner (or maybe your first opposite-sex one)
• Fluff, jokes, nonsense

We have a few rules, these rules are the price of admission, if you aren't willing to follow them, this isn't the list for you. Repeated violations of these rules will not be tolerated.

• No Personal Attacks: Of course there is room on this list for disagreement, even strong disagreement. However, taking that disagreement to the point where you attack the person expressing that viewpoint is not acceptable on BiGi.
• Privacy: We intend this list to be private. Please do not forward posts to people not on the list, or even discuss posts with people outside of the list without the permission of the author(s). That having been said, remember that we don't check IDs at the door, if your life depends on nobody off-list ever reading something you're considering posting, perhaps this isn't the right place to do it, or perhaps you'd feel more comfortable using a pseudonym and/or an anonymous email address, such as those available from Yahoo!, Excite, or Hotmail.
• No Personal Ads: This isn't the place for personal ads. There is some gray area between an introductory post and a personal ad, but for the most part we (and you) know a personal ad when we see it. Places such as bisexual.org offer personal ad services for bisexuals.
• No Spam: This isn't the place to try and sell your product (although mentioning something particularly bi-related is probably welcome, if in doubt, ask a list moderator.)
• Explicit Content: Be considerate to people with different levels of comfort about sexuality. "Sexual" is a part of "bisexual", and we will talk about sexual subjects on this list. If you're not comfortable with that, this will not be the right list for you. On the other hand, please remember you probably don't know a lot of the people on the list--be considerate of the fact that many people may be, for example, discomforted by depictions of graphic sexual violence. A note in the subject line of messages like that would be one way of being considerate, other ways might work equally well, we're simply asking that you use your best judgment.
• Handling Complaints: If you feel that someone is violating one of the list rules, or have another complaint of that nature, please talk to either them, a moderator, or both instead of posting to the list about it. Complaining about a post on-list tends to incite on-list arguments, frustrating everyone. Don't do it. On the other hand, we welcome discussions of what the list policies should be.

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